Your desire to feel close to your daughter is very powerful.
It can be so frustrating as she gets older and her time is increasingly taken by her needs with school, friends, sports, hobbies, and private time. Meanwhile you’re juggling just as much between work, family needs, your partner, friends, your personal needs, and more.
It’s sad to feel that you and your daughter aren’t communicating as deeply or easily as you did back when she told you every single feeling and thought she had.
These changes are normal in her development and happen gradually. But then one day you feel too out-of-touch with her. Maybe she says, “You don’t understand anything!” Or even worse, “You don’t care!”
But of course you do understand–you certainly try to–and you do care!
Megan Armstrong created her Connect and Create course to reverse the gradual deterioration in mother & daughter communication and connection that often happens as your girl grows up.
Megan guides mother & daughter pairs to deeper understanding and communication with each other through a process of individual and shared creative expression. She helps you deepen your connection with your girl and gives you and her tools to help her navigate the inevitable ups and downs of growing up.
Previous Participants in this course say:
“Thank you for a wonderfully challenging experience for my daughter and I. The last two months have been filled with lots of fun, joy, and growth. I am seeing my daughter as a whole person, accepting more of her personality/character and really enjoying all of it. You have been a calm, patient, and positive guide for us as we navigate this mother/daughter path. We feel more connected, which looks like cuddling together, being silly together, and discussing difficult issues with less drama and difficulty. We have a desire to spend time together and we learned how important it is to actually do it.
It’s been a great couple of months and I’m sad to have it end. Thank you so much! ” — Anastasia
“As a mother, the best part of being in the group was getting to meet on a regular basis with wonderful moms and daughters and sharing common experiences. I really enjoyed the mom time to talk. Megan created a safe place for both mothers and daughters to share, laugh, be vulnerable and be creative. She was a wonderful combination of being supportive and warm and willing to challenge the girls to put themselves out there in order to practice healthy communication. ” — WillaSee All the Details about this Course
Enrollment for this pilot is first come, first serve. At this time we only have spaces for two more mother-daughter pairs.
If you’re interested enroll now for 60% savings off the usual course price.
The information about the course is detailed and includes FAQs that answer the questions we’ve gotten.
It would be great to have you and your daughter join us in the pilot phase while we’re fine-tuning the course for online teaching.
Wow, it feels like just yesterday I was writing my summer book recommendations column, and now it’s already time to start thinking about going back to school! Whether you are looking forward to or dreading it, these books can help get you “in the mood” for another year of teachers, homework, and classes!
- Did you know that reading for fun has one of the biggest impacts on whether you’ll do well in school? That’s some school prep I can definitely get behind — and so can Elizabeth Gorcey and Liv Amiri, the mother-daughter team behind Read, Read, and Read, a celebration of all the places books can take you!
- If your school does science fairs, you probably know the stress and excitement that comes from choosing a project every year. You can find inspiration in How to Be an Engineer, which is full of projects like building bridges, catapults, and even a robot arm! In addition to step-by-step instructions, you’ll find lots of photos and profiles of inspirational engineers, like austronaut Mae Jemison and chemist Stephanie Kwolek. For even more ideas, check out How to be a Scientist in the same series.
- And what if … your science fair project could send you back in time? That’s what happens to 13-year-old Charley Morton when she attempts to duplicate Leonardo da Vinci’s design for a time machine in Edge of Yesterday by Robin Stevens Payes. You can follow up Charley’s adventures through time in the second book, Da Vinci’s Way, coming soon.
- Of course school isn’t all about classes and learning. Relationships with your friends and other classmates make up a big part of your school experience, too. If you’re frustrated with cliques and constantly worrying whether you are in the “in” or the “out” group, check out Cliques, Phonies & Other Baloney by Trevor Romain and Elizabeth Verdick. This book can help you be true to your authentic self, find friends who are the right “fit” for you, and even get “out” of a bad friendship group. The same authors have also written Stress Can Really Get on Your Nerves, which can help you pinpoint the source of your school (or non-school) stress and make a plan to tackle it.
- To get to an even deeper level of relaxation, pick up a copy of This Moment is Your Life (and So is This One): A Fun and Easy Guide to Mindfulness, Meditation, and Yoga by Mariam Gates. It includes tons of ideas to help you relax, from exercise moves to journaling to deep breathing, with plenty of illustrations and even space for your own notes.
- If sports are a big part of the school experience for you, you might enjoy the Zach & Zoe Mysteries by Mike Lupica, which features twins Zach and Zoe solving sports-related mysteries. In the first book in the series, The Missing Baseball, the twins are on the hunt for a missing, signed baseball, and in The Half-Court Hero, they make it their mission to find and thank the mysterious benefactor who is making repairs to their favorite basketball court between practices. If you enjoyed the first two mysteries, you can continue with the third book in the series, The Football Fiasco.
- Have you ever been homeschooled? In the novel The Miscalculations of Lightning Girl by Stacy McAnulty, 12-year-old Lucy has been homeschooled since a lightning strike left her with genius-level skills. Even though she’s smart enough for college, her grandma wants her to pass one test first: going to middle-school for one year, where she must also make one friend and join one activity. Check out this book about what can happen when you step outside your comfort zone!
- In Merci Suarez Changes Gears by Meg Medina, Merci enters sixth grade knowing she’ll be different from her classmates, who have bigger houses than hers and don’t have to do community service hours to make up for their tuition costs. But things really get rocky when her classmate, Edna, targets Merci just because Edna’s crush was assigned to be Merci’s “buddy” in class. Things are hard at home, too, where Merci’s grandfather is starting to forget things he’s always known. Can Merci’s family help her get through the toughest year of school so far?
- If you’re reading this, you can probably take going to school for granted. But not all girls throughout the world or history have been able to do the same. This Noble Woman: Myrtilla Miner and Her Fight to Establish a School for African American Girls in the Slaveholding South by Michael M. Greenburg spotlights one woman who fought for the right for all girls to get an education. Although she came from a poor family herself, Myrtella was dedicated to establishing a school for African American girls in the South during the time of slavery, and she fended off stonings, arson, and other threats to make her dream a reality!
What about you? Do you have favorite books that get you in the “back-to-school” mood or help get you through the stressful days? Have you read any of the books listed above? Share your thoughts in the comments below!
Imagine my delight in checking our Instagram recently and finding this awesome comic drawn by our former reader Kelly Abeln, now a professional artist based in Minneapolis. See more of her fabulous art at KellyAbeln.com . When I got in touch, she said:
So glad you like my comic, it’s a true story 🙂 I really loved New Moon growing up, and now as an adult I see how important it was and is to have positive media for girls.
Kelly remembers her feminist awakening with an issue of New Moon, “New Moon opened my eyes to feminism and what sexism looked and sounded like so I could spot it and say NO!”
Long lazy days, family trips and later bedtimes all make summer great for reading. I was a voracious reader and often raced through my huge stack of library books before our next visit. Then I scoured my parents’ bookshelves for things that might interest me.
Whether the girls you care about love reading or are more reluctant, New Moon Girls back issues are great summer reading. The magazines are full of relevant articles that don’t go out of date.
So, as long as you didn’t subscribe during the years you choose packs from, you’ll be giving your girls a new-to-them helping of community, creativity, compassion and courage.
Order by July 9 for savings up to 50%!
P.S. For an extra special gift, our classic collection packs of issues from our first 15 years are awesome!
This Father’s Day, I hope we remember that there have been generations of silence between men about what it means to be a father. Many men haven’t even heard our own dads talk about it.
At my fathering workshops the most moving moment is when I ask: “How many of you feel like you’ve been changed as a man by having a daughter? Stand up if you can tell me one or two or three things that are different for you.”
Everyone in the room stands.
Then I ask, “Stand up if your father ever spoke to you about how he was changed as a man by you being his child.”
Many times no one stands, and rarely more than 3 men stand. That’s a very emotional moment.
Most men of my generation (baby boomer) and older never heard anything on the subject from our own fathers. That’s deeply sad.
However, it’s also an opportunity to break that cycle of silence and talk to other dads (including our own) about it.
Fathers of daughters say they find it especially helpful to talk with other dads of daughters about raising a girl.
In the years before and since I wrote the best-selling Dads & Daughters®: How to Inspire, Understand and Support Your Daughter, I’ve talked and/or corresponded in-depth with thousands of fathers.
Women are always startled to learn that about half of these men (most of whom I never met before) report that I am the first person they’d ever talked to in depth about fatherhood. Men aren’t surprised, because we’re so accustomed to father silence.
The good news? With only a handful of exceptions, the fathers I communicate with are articulate and passionate; we have a lot to say about the experience and importance of being stepdads and dad.
And while much of that may have gone unspoken until the moment of our conversations, those men and I quickly learned there’s real power in asking: “How are you changed as a person because you are a Dad of a Daughter?”